TGIF Free Your Mind

Happy Friday all! I figured while I'm in such good spirits these days I should go ahead and dabble in what I love doing: writing! Okay, maybe I didn't come up with some of these thoughts myself I felt they were interesting and thought provoking so enjoy! Leave a comment also if you'd like.

• If happiness was the national currency what kind of work would make you rich?
• Do you push the elevator button more than once, and do you really believe it makes the elevator move faster?
• Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? (Look deep down with honesty.)
• Would you rather lose all of your memories, or never be able to make new ones?
• Has your greatest fear ever come true?
• Do you remember that time five years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
• If we learn from our mistakes why are we so afraid to make mistakes?
• Would you break the law to save a loved one?
• Which is worse: failing or never trying?
• If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice what would it be?

Dignity or Dollars?

Perhaps I need to vent to make it through the work week, I don't know. My newest thought though is when it comes down to dignity and employment which would one choose? Especially in this economy where even with a degree and stable work history it's like pulling teeth just to get an interview. I've never been one to truly want to be "in" with the popular crowd in school. I've always been somewhat of a rebel, so when it comes to compromising my feelings and playing my intelligence down it really bothers me. Maybe I am being judgmental when it comes to the things I see in my office, but I just can't bring myself to join. I think my biggest issue is that I feel I condone the actions that I know are inherently wrong and borderline illegal at times. I'm no self made millionaire, nor do I have an air tight plan on what I would do if I no longer had this job, but I wonder if it came down to me compromising or securing my employment which would I choose? Which would you?

What Women Shouldn't Do

Mincing words, playing it safe, trying to be delicate is not what I can do on this subject. While recently watching a court show there was a woman suing a man for child support and defamation of character. He had implied that perhaps the child was not his. Yes, we have all heard this story time and again with it being a 50/50 chance that the child could or could not be. Well as the couple had taken a paternity test it was found that the child was NOT his. The child had been born in 2003 and assuming the show was current is now around 7. Not surprised huh? Me either as it could have gone either way, but what disgusted me was the woman's reaction. It was so nonchalant and her only retort was "I'm sorry". Really? Let's really look at this situation for what it really is nasty! At best it was her just being deceitful, but in the cases where women are unsure YUCK! The raw, uncut truth is a woman would have had to have unprotected sex allowing MEN to ejaculate in them in such a short period of time that they are unsure who fathered the child. To even think of that, not evening noting the unsafe practice, is just downright disgusting. As women we should have a little more respect for our bodies than that. Also the "men do it" excuse will not fly on this one. No, it may not be fair that men seem to be able to do anything when it comes to a lot of things and not be judged, but it is what it is. Besides, why size up your moral calls based on what someone else can or can't do? Sometimes I hang my head in shame for some things women allow themselves to be involved in. Let's hold ourselves in higher regard, and if we see a younger woman going through it show her the way by leading by example.

New Year Resolutions

We are about a month into 2011 and I'm wondering if people have kept or even made resolutions. I vowed to make this year better and more productive than last year. Yes, I know it's a broad goal but a goal nonetheless and I knew it was attainable. What drives us to create these resolutions and better yet, what causes us to fail to maintain these resolves throughout the year?

Self - Worth

Bottom line, stop sacrificing yourself to appease others. When it's true love it will never require you to lose your identity and become the person you love. Stop being angry for letting yourself bend over backward for someone else. People only do what we allow them to do. Take responsibility for your misery when it's all said and done. Yes it's easier to blame someone else when we are hurting but lies will not heal the heart, it only masks the problem which allows it to continue on with the next person. Do not become bitter with love or compromise or even sacrifice with the person who would be willing to do the same for you. Being bitter will make you miss out on that one special person who was meant for you all alone. KNOW your self- worth, because once you establish that initially, you probably would never jump through hoops for anyone ever again. Love yourself, spend time getting to know the real you and who you are and what you like. You'd be surprised to discover all the wonderful things about yourself you never knew, and you will never settle again for anyone undeserving.

Wisdom & Love

Cheadle vs. Foxx

Don Cheadle and Jamie Foxx, both nominated for Best Performance by an actor in a leading role in 2004, for the movies "Hotel Rwanda" and "Ray", respectively. Don Cheadle playing the leading role in Hotel Rwanda depicting the horrific and graphic events taking place in Rwanda in 1994 as the world turned its head. Jamie Foxx played Ray Charles, in the movie portraying the late musicians interesting life. These two movies, while both based on true events, are two different genres so can barely be compared in that respect. So who should have one you ask? Or so Kenny asks. So what was the ultimate deciding factor in who was the best actor? Who would you have chosen? Personally I am partial to Don Cheadle as this movie was not only true but shed light on a subject that still is not widely shared with the world. Why didn't he win if this movie was so profound? The first thought that popped into my mind was Hollywood and its superficial values. In my opinion, and those of my peers frankly Jamie Foxx is "easier on the eyes". This is the bottom line, when it comes to Hollywood. Appearance means almost just as much as talent. This is not to discredit Jamie Foxx's talents in anyway as he is an excellent actor and did a wonderful job, however I believe those actors found less attractive have to work all the more harder. This being said I think Cheadle should have came out on top, but again Foxx won, which was not a bad choice, I just question the motives.

   Wisdom & Love

Is Race Still An Issue

What is the deal with black men dating white women vs. black women dating white men? You would think in this day and age and especially the younger generations would no longer see race as an issue in dating. Music is ever converging and blurring the color lines so why not the relationship scene just as fast? I have personally experienced the difficulty in finding my white counterparts who seem interested in dating outside their race. It doesn't seem so difficult for white women to find black males who are interested. Maybe I am wrong but this is how it seems as have some of my female friends have pointed out as well. I have asked a few of my male friends their thoughts on dating outside their race and they have stated its not an issue for them. So then what seems to be the problem? Well we tend to date those who we come in frequent and contact with so if we aren't in the environment with white males the likelihood of dating them becomes slim to none. Perhaps our common interests or careers don't usually place us in these types of environments. Then comes the rejection factor. Rejection is difficult for male or female so to go that extra mile to approach someone of a different race places the rate of rejection higher because people do view race as a factor. Perhaps not in a negative light but the outside is always seen before the personality is discovered. Its just human nature which can't be changed unless we all become blind. Perhaps black males come in more contact with white women than do black women with white males. I don't think its so much a matter of discrimination than is opportunity. So to all my females and males out there looking to date outside their race don't give up. Just build up the courage because what you think that person may not go for could be exactly what they want.

Wisdom & Love