Is Race Still An Issue

What is the deal with black men dating white women vs. black women dating white men? You would think in this day and age and especially the younger generations would no longer see race as an issue in dating. Music is ever converging and blurring the color lines so why not the relationship scene just as fast? I have personally experienced the difficulty in finding my white counterparts who seem interested in dating outside their race. It doesn't seem so difficult for white women to find black males who are interested. Maybe I am wrong but this is how it seems as have some of my female friends have pointed out as well. I have asked a few of my male friends their thoughts on dating outside their race and they have stated its not an issue for them. So then what seems to be the problem? Well we tend to date those who we come in frequent and contact with so if we aren't in the environment with white males the likelihood of dating them becomes slim to none. Perhaps our common interests or careers don't usually place us in these types of environments. Then comes the rejection factor. Rejection is difficult for male or female so to go that extra mile to approach someone of a different race places the rate of rejection higher because people do view race as a factor. Perhaps not in a negative light but the outside is always seen before the personality is discovered. Its just human nature which can't be changed unless we all become blind. Perhaps black males come in more contact with white women than do black women with white males. I don't think its so much a matter of discrimination than is opportunity. So to all my females and males out there looking to date outside their race don't give up. Just build up the courage because what you think that person may not go for could be exactly what they want.

Wisdom & Love

Lines...Who Needs Them Anyway

I hope I understand Mr. Gillis's suggestion on the topic of why male and females are corny and give wack lines. The age old confusion between the sexes: men vs. women. Why do men use lame lines to pull women? Why do women do the same? Well I can only speculate from a man's point of view since I am a female. Perhaps some men just aren't creative enough to come up with their own sayings to attract a female. Better yet, maybe these men fail to understand that most women don't even require elaborate schemes to be pulled in. Most of us are content with the straight forward, polite approach. Again maybe men think women are that mind boggling that this can't be true. Yes, it is! Believe it! For most of us, especially mature women, lines tell us that this man is scripted and any further communication may seem like a play that has been written. Women on the other hand respond to lines with lame excuses as well. I guess we feel why put in the effort of an elaborate let down when the approach was lame to begin with.

My theory also applies to women who try using lines as well. It's hard enough to work up the courage for male or female to approach anyone. Rejection is a huge ego blow so perhaps its nervousness that cause people to use lines. You always go for what you know when you can't think of anything else. And maybe some people feel like why be creative when there is a 50% chance of rejection.

So that being said I say keep it simple. Be polite and honest when approaching the opposite sex. I know I'm not impressed by lines and I'm sure I'm safe in saying that plenty of people feel the same. Keep it simple and have confidence.

Wisdom & Love