Self - Worth

Bottom line, stop sacrificing yourself to appease others. When it's true love it will never require you to lose your identity and become the person you love. Stop being angry for letting yourself bend over backward for someone else. People only do what we allow them to do. Take responsibility for your misery when it's all said and done. Yes it's easier to blame someone else when we are hurting but lies will not heal the heart, it only masks the problem which allows it to continue on with the next person. Do not become bitter with love or compromise or even sacrifice with the person who would be willing to do the same for you. Being bitter will make you miss out on that one special person who was meant for you all alone. KNOW your self- worth, because once you establish that initially, you probably would never jump through hoops for anyone ever again. Love yourself, spend time getting to know the real you and who you are and what you like. You'd be surprised to discover all the wonderful things about yourself you never knew, and you will never settle again for anyone undeserving.

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Is Race Still An Issue

What is the deal with black men dating white women vs. black women dating white men? You would think in this day and age and especially the younger generations would no longer see race as an issue in dating. Music is ever converging and blurring the color lines so why not the relationship scene just as fast? I have personally experienced the difficulty in finding my white counterparts who seem interested in dating outside their race. It doesn't seem so difficult for white women to find black males who are interested. Maybe I am wrong but this is how it seems as have some of my female friends have pointed out as well. I have asked a few of my male friends their thoughts on dating outside their race and they have stated its not an issue for them. So then what seems to be the problem? Well we tend to date those who we come in frequent and contact with so if we aren't in the environment with white males the likelihood of dating them becomes slim to none. Perhaps our common interests or careers don't usually place us in these types of environments. Then comes the rejection factor. Rejection is difficult for male or female so to go that extra mile to approach someone of a different race places the rate of rejection higher because people do view race as a factor. Perhaps not in a negative light but the outside is always seen before the personality is discovered. Its just human nature which can't be changed unless we all become blind. Perhaps black males come in more contact with white women than do black women with white males. I don't think its so much a matter of discrimination than is opportunity. So to all my females and males out there looking to date outside their race don't give up. Just build up the courage because what you think that person may not go for could be exactly what they want.

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Love: A Simple Explanation

Many people ask what the meaning of love is. That is not a simple question to answer because there are many different types of love. I think though most people wonder about that "relationship" love. So where to begin. You have to know what it is to be loved and to love someone. Usually you are loved by parents or grandparents or whoever raised you. This love is the exact way people should love one another. The only difference is that relationship love is a bit deeper. This first love we are taught is unconditional and without intent behind any of its actions. This love is given without expectation that it should be returned. This love comes with sacrifice that we sometimes don't even see. Some parents will go without for the sake of giving to their child. This is true love. Never selfish and without need to be reciprocated. You give your all without concern of what you will receive from it. You love even when you are afraid your love will never be returned. You make decisions based on not just you but the one you are with. You listen with an open heart and soul to truly hear the other point of view. You make the compromise to do things you may not enjoy for the sake of another's happiness. Loving someone means you do what is best for the other person even if it means you set them free. True love is about how much you are willing to sacrifice for the happiness for another. I think the key to love is selflessness. If you can say that you would stick by a person's side when they are weak and frail and you see them dying day by day you know what it means to love.

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Dad: March 4th 1997

What can I say about Herschal Brightful? He wasn't famous or an inventor but he was my dad. I can't say he was amazing to the world but he was to me. He was cool and laid back. Truly easy going and an all around great person. Like all of us on this earth he had his faults. But those are faults that were his and no one else's. What can I say? He was my dad and I wish when he was here he was around a lot more. I adored him with a love that I now feel overwhelmed with. Sometimes I feel like I am the only one who remembers at times. Since I'm the oldest of four daughters I can say I was blessed to have spent the most time with him, but cursed because its harder to let go. Missing him hurts in a deep way that seems to go on forever. I think of the times we will never share and the piece of my soul that he has taken hurts even harder. I will forever miss him and nothing will ever replace that part of my soul.

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A Father's Unwavering Love

To have an unwavering love for anyone can be difficult but never impossible. The bond between parent and child is unbreakable. A bond between mother and daughter is special. A father's unwavering love for his daughter is something out of this world. Maybe people don't realize that as a parent you are a model for your child of how a respectable adult should behave in the ever growing world around them. Men may also not understand the importance of their love for their daughters specifically. Perhaps men feel because their daughters are not sons they have little to show or give. This misconception couldn't be further from the truth. A father's love given unconditionally teaches their girls the very epitome of self worth and respect. The females are shown what love from a man should be always, which will in turn teach them never to settle for anything less from another male. Loving your daughter despite faults, mistakes and downfalls teaches the love of oneself. It's maybe never seen in this respect but it is an essential component to a life lesson learned. A father's unwavering love is also very special because men, in general, do not naturally have the talent to display this intense emotion of love. I commend all fathers who continually show love to their children. Unconditional, unwavering love is the foundation to a mentally sound stable life. Kudos to all the dad's out there! Continue to exude love for your children and especially your daughters. You may have no idea how one small action can change her life.

Thanks Mr. Kenneth Cooper

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The Beginning

Regarding anything new requires a 'start', so this is my start to my new life. I was about to say I hope but I don't hope I only do in regards to my writing. I won't bore you with my life's details or go on and on but I didn't want to leave my blog empty. I wanted to at least start out on some note, so here it is. What can you expect? Any and everything I encounter. I'm hoping to bring humor as well as education and any topics anyone would like to suggest is also welcome. I love having discussion and giving opinions on any subject. I feel I have a lot of wisdom to share and I love to hear wisdom from others. So join me on my journey, I welcome all who are interested and look forward to entertaining as well and educating.

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